Emotional Affairs vs. Physical Affairs: How Matrimonial Detectives Spot the Difference

Infidelity comes in many forms, and not all of them derive from physical intimacy, which is often the case. Digitisation has made it much harder to discover the information’s true infidelity boundaries, and emotional cheating these days is equally as damaging as physical cheating, which our investigation service can help clarify. 

While both types of cheating can be harmful to marriage, matrimonial private investigators use different strategies to determine distinct types of cheating.

What is an Emotional Affair? 

An emotional affair occurs when one develops an intimate personal relationship outside marriage and gives that person more preference than their spouse. In contrast to physical affairs, no sexual interaction takes place. However, there can be a very strong emotional bond that can lead to committing an act of betrayal.

Signs of an Emotional Affair: 

• Being unengaged through social media, calls, or texts. 
• Mental detachment from a spouse or partner. 
• Valuing someone else’s judgment and time more than that of their partner. 
• Having frequent but trivialised or concealed dialogues with the other person. 
• Being overly protective and defensive over questions regarding the third party. 

What is a Physical Affair? 

Physical affairs take place when there are sexual relations and intimacy with a person outside the marriage. Such activity requires the participants to meet face to face and engage in sexual or romantic activities away from public scrutiny, which can complicate any investigation service.

Warning Signs of Possible Physical Affair: 

• Frequent late nights and unexplained absences.
• Notable changes to one’s grooming or appearance.
• Gifts, as well as receipts and hotel bookings.
• Guilt-inducing affection or intimacy towards the spouse.
• Comparison or guilt-based avoidance of physical contact with a partner.

How Matrimonial Detectives Spot the Difference

Detectives are trained to distinguish between emotional and physical affairs in their surveillance techniques, so investigators adjust to behavioural patterns as emotional, physical, or both.

1. Digital Surveillance 

Overly emotional affairs are known to have an unmistakable digital trail – constant texting, messages on social media, and conversations over encrypted voice apps. Most detectives monitor how people use a phone – the outgoing and incoming calls, messages, and social media usage- and attempt to seize disguised emotional attachments.

2. Behavioral Observation

Detectives monitor the subject’s behaviour, looking for changes in social interaction and movement patterns. A more shallow affair usually is characterised by physical meetings for intimacy, but numerous phone calls and chats and emotional withdrawal may see an emotionally deeper affair, complicating any post matrimonial investigation.  

3. Financial Trail Investigation 

The spending patterns of credit accounts often tell a lot about undisclosed relationships and can help verify suspicions of infidelity. Expenses that appear out of nowhere, like too many visits to one coffee shop, expensive gifts, or mysterious vacations, tend to indicate an emotional or physically deeper affair. Investigators look at credit card use and online payments to find such discrepancies in our investigation service.

4. Facial Expressions and Body Movement

A trained investigator can look at some of a patient’s non-verbal actions like fidgeting, smiling when engaging with friends on the phone, or sudden changes in decorum. These emotional signals may provide information as to whether someone cares for someone else. 

5. Statements from Relatives and Friends

Some affairs might not be suspected because they can be easily masked or even ignored by spouses or partners. The investigator seeks permission of these close people, as in acquaintances, to analyse any comments that could describe their partner’s unusual change of attitude or behaviour. 

Which Is Worse: Emotional or Physical Affairs? 

The pain caused by an intimate affair, often linked to adultery, emotionally splits someone in two. One side is the physical violence where trust is abused by intimacy, and the other is suffering from deeper emotional hurt brought about by an intimately glued connection that should have been solely reserved for the spouse. Most betrayed mates find emotional infidelity hard to forgive since it involves shifting loyalty and deep affection from the spouse, often revealed in post matrimonial investigations. 

Forms of physical and emotional affairs put an individual relative through grief, but they disguise themselves and can be more difficult to spot in a pre matrimonial context. Still, matrimonial investigators have the most sophisticated forms of observation to obtain help through their discreet investigation services.There is a need for a professional to assist if there are fears about treachery. Seeking such aid gives results and answers on which one can deeply rest his head.

Why Hire BSPI Matrimonial Detective Agency?

Residing in a marriage requires trust, but issues like pre-existing suspicion or trust deficit make post-marriage life hard to navigate. If you are dealing with a spouse whose past is troubling and needs one last look before saying “I do,” we undercover matrimonial specialists may just save the day with their expert services. Unlike other investigators in Singapore, these discreet specialists maintain the utmost professionalism and delicacy while solving your issue, leaving you at ease every step of the way.

Known as the most reputable private investigation company in Singapore, at Baker St. Private Investigators (BSPI), we work with several fully qualified investigators who conduct deep searches for relevant legal evidence pertaining to pre or post-marriage problems, all while following the legal boundaries of the country.

Why Choose BSPI? 

• Licenced & Law-Compliant – All investigations follow the stipulations of Singaporean law. 
• Professional Matrimonial Investigations – Former police officers turned private eyes who specialise in matrimonial disputes. 
• Private & Confidential – Your identity, as well as any information you provide, will always be kept private. 
• Modern Techniques – We conduct unobtrusive investigations using the most advanced equipment in the industry. 
• Truth Advocacy – Assisting clients in making factual decisions about their relationships and how they intend to proceed in the future. 

Find the Answers to Your Questions

Living with marriage-related doubts and uncertainty can be mentally strenuous, making the need for a discreet investigation service even more pressing. From the need to gain clarity pre and during a problematic marriage, our matrimonial detectives in Singapore provide you with evidence that supports your claim in child custody disputes. 

There is no reason to dwell on uncertainty. Trust BSPI to get you the answers. Reach out to us now for a private consultation with our private detective.